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HOW TO RECOGNIZE POST NATAL PTSD

Thousands of women suffer from trauma after childbirth in the UK but it is unrecognized. There is a lack of social awareness, training for the medical staff and treatment for the survivors. After suffering the condition myself I can describe these symptoms with accuracy which help health professionals understand this condition in a better way. In Addition any Post Natal PTSD survivors feel that there is someone who can understand them a hundred percent and know that there is treatment for their illness. The following are some of the symptoms which make PN PTSD different from other post natal illnesses.

• Flashbacks • Suicidal thoughts • Nightmares

• Depression • Emotional numbing • Problems with bonding

• Anger • Guilt • Isolation

• Fear of becoming pregnant again

BUY THE BOOK

Find more about How to Recognize PN PTSD and the way to recovery in Real Healing After Caesarean, by Martha Jesty. First book in the UK written by a PN PTSD survivor and soon to become a Non-Fiction book-based film.

PARTICIPATE IN WORKSHOPS

PTSD survivorsLearning about symptoms, causes & treatment

Bonding with your child
Learning the first steps of bonding with your baby or child

Therapeutic Activities
Learn how to cope with your trauma)

Therapeutic Tango for couples
For those struggling with trauma or going through a separation process

FIND A COUNSELLOR

Martha Jesty, member of the BACP- British Association for Counsellors and Therapists, is an experienced counsellor who can listen 'to your concerns. Profits from appointments will go to Help Women and Children.

For an appointment please click here .

Flashbacks
Like a video tape of the birth being played on anytime anywhere and it comes suddenly without a warning and you want to escape, scream, hit yourself, disappear, you feel dying again and find difficult to breath.

Suicidal thoughts
You wish you are dead; sometimes your thoughts are about taking an overdose or similar actions to finish your life but you really want to live...you just want to someone to listen to you without any judgement.

Nightmares
There are so vivid that you wake up with a heart fast acceleration frightened because someone tried to kill you in your dreams…but you escape…again. Therefore you prefer not to sleep or only sleep a few hours.

Depression
You looked depressed but in many cases you are not really depressed or suffer from depression, it just comes when you think about your future and there is no way out…and then you cry because there is no one to understand what you went through

Emotional numbing
There are no feelings inside you; there is disbelief of the atrocities the health professionals have done against you and your body; you feel that you are a character in a film.

Problems with bonding
There is an unconscious, and some times conscious, rejection of your baby as a constant reminder of your traumatic birth. It is so difficult and sometimes impossible to love your baby but deep inside you know you love him/her but cannot express those feelings. But every time your baby gets ill, you think she/he will dye and you behave like it will happen.

Anger
There is so much anger against those you treated you so badly that you could kill them with your own hands. But before you do that you want answers to your many questions about the decisions they took over your head…they need to give you a very good explanations otherwise you kill them time after time in your thoughts. And all these actions are only in your thoughts.

Guilt
You feel guilty for not measure to what the health professionals want from you: breast feed, bond with your baby and keep all appointments.

Isolation
There is no mother who can understand you when you express your feeling to them. Neither no member of your family can comprehend the deep sadness, anger and life of hell you are living. Therefore you isolate yourself from mothers, friends and family….and the most dangerous: you isolate yourself from doctors, midwifes and nurses.

Fear of becoming pregnant again
There is no way you will get pregnant again, just the thought makes you sweat in fear. Therefore your sex life is non existence.

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